Do you even ORGASM?!?
**Fact: There is no one definite definition of orgasm but, the definition that I most agree upon is this; it is a sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscle contractions in the pelvic region characterized by sexual pleasure. Experienced by both male and female, orgasms are controlled by the involuntary or autonomic nervous system.
This is my view on orgasms, their levels and how to achieve them.
Lets start with the basics! The vaginal orgasm; which is reached by the stroking of the inner vaginal walls, causing what I would say is a spine chilling️,body quivering, blissful sensation. The sad thing is only 30% of women have ever had the chance to experience this pleasurable sensation. Can you guess why?!? LACK OF KNOWLEDGE AND LOVE FOR SELF! Do not let that discourage you though, because you always have ole faithful️, the clitoral orgasm. I call it ole faithful️ because there are 8,000 nerve endings in the clitoral glans alone and when they fire they send signals to 15,000 more. Meaning it is extremely sensitive unless you have some how desensitized your clit. I wouldn’t say that you don’t know how to achieve a clitoral orgasm, but I can inform you on how to achieve a healthy one. So before I teach you some technique lets go over the most basic hygiene rules for when your fondling a vagina. If you plan on using your hands please make sure they are clean, like really clean; nails cleaned and or clipped, hands washed, maybe even add you yoni oil for vagina boost!
If you’re doing oral then your teeth and mouth should also be just as clean, teeth brushed or a good mouth rinsing. ( No one wants what you had for lunch in their puss!) Anything you are using should be clean and sanitary. No dirty D in the vagina. Note: if you do any anal play do not try to go back to the vagina after, that’s s a no-no! Alright!
Go get your note pad, you might need it️!
Here are a few techniques to help you out!
The pistol cock: Grab the labia majora with your thumb and side of you index finger. The grip should be pleasantly firm feeling the clitoris in between. Once there you will proceed ➡️To move the finger and thumb up 🔼 and down 🔽 slowly. ( You will not be touching actual clit whatsoever.)
Next we have what I call the porno rub lol! Yes you read that right! You know the one where the guy spits on his hand and begins to rub her clit in a way that I can only describe as a dj scratching on a record!! There are 2 problems I have with this, it is the spit and the lack of technique and care. Instead of spit, coconut oil, or yoni would be a great substitute. If your mouth is in fact clean, then feel free! (with her approval, Of course!) As far as the technique try placing the index and middle fingers on top 🔝of the labia minora, framing the clit,from there rub gently.
Another finger play that men should be great at is the thumb roll. Which consists of placing your thumb over the clit moving it round in a circular 🔁motion like the joy stick on a video game controller. Now because of how sensitive the clitoris is if your over stimulate too fast using only hands and she has a clitoral orgasm, she might be good for the night. Instead bring her to the brink with the clit the follow up with deep penetration, but that's just a suggestion! If you are able to time things and have both a vaginal and clitoral at the same damn time you have achieved a double orgasm which deserves a gold star!!! Ultimately you can have a orgasm from anything the sends those sexual signals to your brain. This is what people would call a fetish, including anal, breast/nipple, hair, BBW, feet ,there's a variety out there.
So who wants to know my favorite way to orgasm?!?I am what you would call sapiosexual; attracted to intelligence. So the situation in which someone is dropping knowledge passionately, being involved in a deep discussion, or even just gaining so much knowledge for self that it excites you sexually sending the same stimulation to the autonomic and involuntary nervous system.
I could go on and on about orgasms all day but, like my friend says, “when it comes down to an orgasm is what you make of it.” Remember that there’s also more to achieving orgasms then your techniques, emotions can make or break a orgasm depending on the person you’re dealing with. Know yourself first, also know who you are sharing yourself with. Make an educated personal decision on if you, in your right mind, whole body and soul are ready to give yourself mentally,physically, and spiritually to another at that point and time. Now go explore you with yourself and/ or with your partner. Take note of what you like and don’t like. Last but never least love yourself before you love anyone else!
Peace.Love.Light.Light
Safari Waters
**Disclaimer** I am not a doctor or licensed health professional. This blog is written through my own studies and life.
Sources: Life, http://womensplasticsurgery.blogspot.com/2009/11/all-about-labiaplasty-labia-minora.html, Porn( too many to credit).